Up: [[Life]] Created: 2024-01-03 ### Same Reality, Different Terms Maureen Murdock and [[Marion Woodman]] call us a father’s daughter. Jean Shinoda Bolen calls us Athena women after the Greek goddess who sprang fully formed from her father, Zeus’s, head. Murdock says [[Athena]] is the [[Archetype]] of the father’s daughter in that she is allied with her father in the rejection of her mother. Linda Leonard says we are Armoured Amazons because we have an armour of competence and self-sufficiency that keeps others at arm’s length. ### Traits of a Father’s Daughter from Loomis 1. Secure in father’s love. This is noted by mother and/or siblings 2. Views father as wonderful and powerful 3. Holds father’s values and adheres to them unquestioningly, believing they are her own 4. Lives life pleasing her father and being affirmed by him in what she does. Struggles to be what he wishes her to be. 5. At ease with men — spirited, energetic, competent 6. Has vague awareness or belief that women and the feminine are not quite equal to men and the masculine 7. Because masculine values are seen as superior to feminine values, the father’s daughter elevates spirit and diminishes body. This often means denying stress, fatigue, or physical pain. 8. Father usually treats as extension of himself, assuming she will want what he wants 9. There is no incest, at least nothing physical 10. Masculine energy is well developed in the outer world with lots of achievements and accomplishments. But inner masculine energy, what Jung called a woman’s [[animus]] is underdeveloped. ### Added by Murdock The daughter is her father’s confidante, functioning more as wife than daughter. At work, she is usually the trusted confidante of the man in power. A father’s daughter is groomed to be like her father, but she has to be less powerful than him. Her loyalty is to his ease and comfort. That would be rocked if she accomplished more than him or if she had a separate truth that she shared. ### The Father’s Failing A father’s responsibility is to let his daughter idealize him and then gradually allow her to see his human limitations. And a father’s responsibility is to help his daughter see herself as feminine. > [!User] Sources > - Mary Loomis, *Her Father’s Daughter: When Women Succeed in a Man’s World.* (1995) Read November 2020 > - Linda Leonard, *The Wounded Woman: Healing the Father-Daughter Relationship* (1982) Read October 2020 > - Maureen Murdock, *The Hero’s Daughter* (1994) Read Jan. 2022