Up: [[Emotions]] Related: [[Values]] Created: 2024-12-14 Updated: 2026-01-20 Without clear values, we have a tendency to default to boundary issues such as the following: - trusting everyone/no one - all or nothing beliefs or rules - giving too much or nothing at all - feeling guilty after saying ‘no’ - fearing other people’s reactions - feeling surface with other people or closed off - unsure of what I want or need - seeking external validation When we have healthy boundaries based on our values, we are able to: - say “no” to demands on our personal time that don’t match our values - separate our emotions from the emotions of other people - speak up for ourselves, even during conflicts ### How to assert boundaries? 3Vs 1. Values — What matters most here? Do my actions align? 2. Voice — What will I say? How will I live out this value? 3. Validation — How can I validate myself afterwards?