Up: [[Accept Reality]] Related: [[Witness]]; [[Self-Compassion]] Created: 2026-01-25 Self-trust develops through taking actions that are in line with your [[values]]. The actions don’t need to be huge, they can be very tiny. But they do need to be aligned to values, which means you need to have done the hard work of figuring out what you really want in your life and accepting the answers to that question instead of thinking that you *should* be wanting something else. > [!Orbit] Katherine Morgan Schafler in *The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control* > If you don’t trust yourself, you meet your gestures of self-love with low-key suspicion and hesitation….When you trust yourself, you focus on being curious about what you need, instead of being suspicious about who you are. When you trust yourself, instead of beating yourself up for mistakes, you will more easily take a [[Witness]] stance of noticing what’s happening and responding with [[Self-Compassion]].