Up: [[Pay Attention MOC]] Created: 2022-05-31 It’s really important to own your choices by saying “I want to…” rather than “I have to….” Doing this means that you are active, not passive. James Hollis says for every significant choice ask, **Does this choice enlarge me or diminish me?** Saying ‘no’ isn’t just for the things we don’t want to do. We also have to be able to say ‘no’ to things we do want because we only have one life and we have to be able to prioritize among appealing alternatives. This idea comes from the book *Four Thousand Weeks*.