Up: [[Savour]] Created: 2024-12-19 Updated: 2025-03-16 > [!Orbit] [[Anne Truitt]] in *Turn* > When things go wrong I don’t go along with them, I just step back and wait without making heavy weather of it until I can step forward easily. I am present but, like an incidental figure in a painting, I watch the action in the foreground from a distance. I think Truitt was talking about actual external events going wrong, but her statement equally applies to inner conflicts. I’m learning how important it is to be that incidental figure in the painting, a detached observer of my internal experience. **Ground** I can only do this from a place of feeling grounded, centred. Take several slow deep breaths. Remind myself that I am doing healing work. If I can’t access the understanding part of me that knows how to work through whatever difficulty is present, think about how Helen would do it or [[Hestia]]. **Name** Whatever I experience, bring my attention to it. Name and label in order to externalize it. Try linking the internal noise, behaviour, or feeling to something from the past when I wasn’t equipped to deal with it. Relate to it kindly and confidently, as an adult would to a loved child. **Express** Drawing or writing can help to both process a difficult experience and put it outside of myself. Most of the ideas in [[Expressive Art]] work for this. If it’s really difficult to remain a calm witness, the [[Focusing]] process suggests mentally putting the part in a box or some other container and setting it away from myself. Taking a walk or moving in whatever form is needed can also be helpful. Improving my ability to be a witness will have untold benefits to the Hestian life of contentment, tranquility and ease I desire. As Pema Chödron says, I get to be the sky. “Everything else — is just the weather.”